Don't expect--no disappointment

William Shakespeare reportedly said "Expectation is the root of all heartache". It is true it is in our best interests to be hopeful however expecting a certain outcome of an action leads to true heartache. Such as you may text or message someone and they see it but don't answer you back. Expecting an answer and/or a specific answer can lead to feelings of loss and increased sensitivity to remarks. That can lead to damaging your relationships with others. 

Being expectant of how we will feel or do day to day whether physically, emotionally and/or mentally can lead to disappointment with ourselves when we don't live up an expectation of our performance. Being expectant that a relationship will either evolve to more than it is or that it will continue can lead to feelings of loss when the relationship (i'm talking friendship OR romantic) doesn't do that or ends because of one thing or another. 

Expecting your friends to act a certain way towards you can also lead to disappointment. People are people. They will do as they do. We need to do what we need to do for ourselves and our own life and not expect things from others. That is so hard to do though. Reminding ourselves that just because we didn't get the response or the feelings returned doesn't mean that person doesn't care anymore can help to relax those feelings. 

I guess I am saying that while it's good to HOPE and REFLECT on desires if things don't happen that way then it is okay.